We tend to focus on our relationships with others, but we also have a relationship with ourselves.
That relationship is informed by your personal successes and failures. Consciously or not, you keep score with yourself over time.
But problems arise when we start to hold ourselves to a higher standard than we hold others. Once you realize you’re doing this, you can start to change the narrative.
Ask yourself: Would I talk to someone else this way? How quickly would I forgive them? And how would I navigate this inner tension if its source was external?
Because if you’re in conflict with yourself, you’ll lose every time.